Confessions Of A 30k Millionaire


“It’s Better To Fake It Than To Make It” –Trent Monica, Dallas, Hairstylist and self proclaimed “King Of The 30KM Circuit.

I recently had the opportunity after a Dallas Mavericks game to sit down with Trent Monica. Trent is a Dallas Hair stylist. He is also the self proclaimed “King Of The 30k Millionaires” otherwise known as the “30kM circuit” He reluctantly agreed to be interviewed regarding his embracing of the 30km lifestyle and his secrets to success as well as his skilled technique in 30km deception.

Here is what Trent had to say regarding the mystique and myths surrounding lifestyle embraced by Jack In The Box managers across the country and dreaded by unsuspecting women -the 30k Millionaire.

Make no mistake, being a successful 30KM is hard work. You have to do your homework. You have to create a perception that will survive beyond the 2 a.m last call”

So how you can you be the Lebron James of the 30KM maxed out credit card circuit? If you follow these simple rules you can “Out-3oKM” the competition. You can fake your way through beautiful women, comped casino rooms, free private jets and VIP treatment at the hottest spots in town. You can basically enjoy the benefits of all that Bernie Madoff enjoyed without the hassles of ownership or prison.


“I am on a first name basis with almost every VIP doorman, bouncer and head bartender in Dallas.”

I have the same relationships with VIP hosts in most of the major Vegas clubs. It is an urban myth that you have to slip major coin to these types for preferential treatment. That is just not true. It is more important to be unique and engaging. You may have to pad the paycheck a couple times but if you add conversation, personality and hot women to those encounters you will be remembered. You will never have to wait in line again. You will be a VIP without cost of membership. it works.



“Good looking women attract other good looking women” .

More importantly, they attract guys willing to shell out for VIP bottle service and dinner tabs to have a shot of going home with one of them even if they don’t know you from Adam Schmockle or Dirk Nowitzki

Regardless of your income level, the opportunities to befriend women abound. In the course of my job as a hairstylist, I am surrounded by women all day long. I engage them on multiple levels. I don’t hit on them. I become their friend, not their date. My goal is to be a BGF (Best Guy Friend).

This is where many amateur 30KM wannabes go terribly wrong. They forget what the ultimate goal is. They can not keep it in their pants. They forget the 30KM Golden Rule.

What is the golden Rule? If you want to be up there with me as a 30KM God, Don’t S**t Where You Drink! I bring at least 3 of my hottest BFF’s (Best Female Friends) to any gathering.

Lets say we are at the club and one of my girls gets asked to come over to a table, she knows that this is a package deal. We all get introduced, and what do you know this 30KM god is sitting at a table drinking Perrier Jouet Rose, and Dom P. It works every time.”


“You do not have to be related to the owner of a sports franchise to score good, babe impressing seats to a game.

There is nothing better than being seen sitting on the floor at a Dallas Mavericks game. This may still seem like a stretch for an aspiring 30KM, but not if you do your homework.

Track seats on eBay and StubHub. Look for seats to weekday games against opponents who are not that good. The seats will almost always be cheaper. You also want to be seen on the JumboTron or even better on local or national television. Once in your seats, find the camera guy who works the big screen. Strike up a conversation. Let him know your are there with a hot girl. Be sure she says hello to him. Be sure when you go to your seat she makes some kind of physical departing contact such as a touch on the arm. You WILL end up in High Definition on the arena big screen.

People will see you with those seats and will automatically think you have money. If you know people with great seats either at work or socially drop hints. You would be surprised how many times primo seats to off games go unused.

“Last season I had 50 yard line lower level suits seats to every Dallas Cowboys game in the new Stadium”

You may think that the Cowboy’s struggles make it more difficult to sell that to a hottie but you are wrong! The allure of the 50 or a suite at Jerry World is there regardless of whether the game itself will be a total ass-whip. Nightclub hotties eat it up. Now did I pay for those? Of course not. I get them from rich friends. Do you know any ladies that would go with someone else to a game and sit outside in shitty seats with 2o dollar beers when they can sit inside, get free food, drinks and watch the game in comfort? It’s a no-brainer.”bottleservice1


There is always going to be a slow night or two where you are going to have to shell out some of your own coin. A true 30KM knows the off nights at the hot spots around town. If you don’t want to go the Chinese takeout route those nights and still be successful the keys are preparation and damage control.

“The goal is to conserve funds while maintaining maximum “fake“.

You can get nice and buttered up before you even get to the club.(I Never Drink and Drive) Once in the club you already have your swerve on. Order one drink for yourself and you’re set. Nurse your drink!

You can also try the pre-party happy hour. Get one of your rich buds to at least have a happy hour at his penthouse pad even if he does not want to make it a long night. More often that not he will be up for having the party come to him versus the effort of hitting the club. Its a lot less expensive to buy the alcohol yourself before you go out and get their swerve on as well. This can save you up to 50 percent in bar tab expense. There is also a 50/50 shot that by the time you and your hotties are ready to hit the town, your rich buddy has changed his mind and comes along. Problem solved!

“Once again many wannabe 30KM’s make mistakes here.”

They forget why they are in the club. They live the night between their legs, buying drinks for every hot girl. They go home alone with a maxed out credit card. I would rather go home alone with my status as the king of the 30KM circuit in tact, new BFF’s made,and live to fight another day. Most importantly, I did not blow my pocket roll or my limited credit.

These amateurs watch too many movies. They have not learned that buying women drinks in itself never gets you laid unless its the last skank at the bar. They have also not learned that buying invidual drinks does not get noticed by anyone that matters. The true play is in the VIP bottle service area. Everything else is minor league.

“On a night where none of the rich friends are going out, pre-drinking is key”


This is the single most important rule of being a 30k millionaire. You have to Act As If. If you cannot speak/act/look the part, you are doomed to failure. Being able to speak to women, club owners, wealthy people or anybody else that is VIP is so important. What’s funny about this rule is that it is intertwined with all the others. The less you talk about what you have the better. Let people perceive what you have and how you live your life, not go out of your way to tell people about it. If you have to tell them you have money, you have lost the game already. You will immediately be tagged as a 30KM wannabe.gulfstream


“I have always surrounded myself with wealthy people.”

People that are really wealthy sometimes get enjoyment out of seeing less fortunate people enjoy themselves in ways they would never be able to. This opens up a world of 30KM opportunities. Befriending wealthy people has allowed me to travel extensively, hardly ever forking out for more than airfare.


This is a key component of a successful 30KM. Obviously, if you’re only making around 30k or less, you’re not going to be able to buy a BMW, but you can lease one. With a little research you can find people on countless online web sites trying to get out of their leases with no credit check.

If you are like me ,you are also not going to be able to afford a sick condo in city unless you have four roommates. This again is where rich friends with plush pads come in. If you have 3 roomies and your buddy has a downtown penthouse, common sense dictates where the party should

“Replica is another word that most 30KM’s are really intimately familiar with.”

Replica Cartier, 2 karat stud earrings, Louis Vuittion wallet. These are all mainstays of the 30KM wardrobe. Most who tell you they can spot the difference are lying. In reality, unless its your wife, girlfriend, or another 30KM, no one is checking that closely regardless.

“When I lived in Scottsdale I leased a BMW 330i. Of course the subject never came up if it was owned or leased so that was an easy one to get away with. On my trips to Mexico I was able to pick up a knock-off Cartier watch that was a dead ringer. Even my wealthy friends who had them couldn’t tell, I think the one I picked up was $40. My condo in downtown Scottsdale was just sick, of course it was only 3 bedrooms with 4 people living there, but it worked. Whatever person had girls coming back would get a bedroom, the odd man out got the couch. Other than a couple of close calls, this worked to perfection.”


This is where I stand out above and beyond all other 30km. I have never been caught, and never will! I never go out of my way to let people know what I have (or what I don’t have). I let them see for themselves. If you are low key, no one asks. When they do, depending if I am in town, or out of it, is when my stories can be a little more far fetched. The fact that I am appealing to the opposite sex is a bonus. If you have average or below average looks, you need to be that much more personally engaging and dependent on other women If you have 3 hot women on your arm, no one is going to be looking at you when you all sit down in the VIP bottle service section.


“This is a 30KM idiot is a dangerous wild card.”

Their fake is easily spotted as bullshit. They put everyone else on their guard, making it harder for a true professional 30KM to operate. This type of 30KM idiot will join in on a conversation, pull a bank statement out of his back pocket and challenge you to a balance contest. He will try to force a seat at the VIP table with lame ass lines even a hottie at her drunkest would not believe. When you are in the middle of this type of situation, the best thing to do is avoid a confrontation. Defuse the situation. Pack up your girls and leave the area for a bit. The money guys will get the message and jettison the 30KM idiots. You can then return women and primo 30KM king status in- tact.


I would hope that even the most skilled and successful 3oKM’s would not want to remain a 30KM forever. My goal as a 30KM has always been to surround myself with wealthy people, and who knows what may come from it. It’s not about what you know or what you make, its about who you know and what they make..

“Good Luck And Good Faking!”

Brian Cuban is a an author whose  best-selling book “Shattered Image: My Triumph Over Body Dysmorphic Disorder” chronicles his first-hand experiences living with, and recovering from childhood bullying, eating disorders and Body Dysmorphia Disorder (BDD) and drug addiction.  Brian speaks regularly about his recovery ,breaking the male eating disorder stigma and how those suffering can turn their lives around 

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The Idiots Guide To NBA Nightlife

The  new NBA season is upon us!  New hopes and new players  driving the Dallas Mavericks to what is hopefully another trip into the NBA finals scene.  On the after-game social scene in Dallas,  the “singles season’’ never ends.   I roamed the city-streets after a Dallas Mavericks home game.  I spied the Mack-Daddy Douchebags,  30K Millionaires, Cougars,  and Gold-Diggers galore.   I was stunned by a similarity between  the Dallas singles scene and the great NBA game.  Life imitates art. Basketball imitates life. Especially in social interactions.


Let’s lace up those high-tops for a walk onto the hardwood court of Dallas (and note that I believe it’s largely the same for any big-city nightlife where a basketball season is played out). There are no points for second place. The winners hit nothing but net while the losers head home alone and whine the next morning about how they gave their best. The only way you can only get a “clear path” to the basket” view of all this is if you are living outside the 3-point line.diagram

To watch this game – and to maybe be more than a baseline season-ticket-holder — I had to re-learn all I knew about basketball and how it applied to the nightlife scene. Once I had finished learning the rules and different offensive (sometimes very offensive!) and defensive sets, a night out in Dallas became more entertaining than watching the NBA Finals.

Well, almost

In order to see what I saw and know what I know you have to have a basic understanding of basketball “terminology” as it applies to both the NBA and the nightclub scene. Once you have this understanding you will never look at a bar or nightclub in the same light. Here are some of the terms you need to understand:diagram4

“Palming”: The act of adjusting oneself in a nightclub right in front of your buddy/wingman and the hot girl you are talking to. This is a change in possession foul and you must now transfer possession of the hot girl to your buddy.

“Slam-dunk”: The last drunk girl in the bar at 2 a.m.

“Full Court Press’’: Within 15 minutes of meeting a girl in a bar you have given her your phone number, certified financial statement, recent HIV test and two round-trip tickets to Vegas for the next day. You’ve even sent flowers sent to the girl … while still in the bar.

“Flagrant Foul”: At the very moment the hottest girl in the bar is handing you her telephone number, your best buddy, say, picks his nose. This is a two-shot foul. You retain possession. Your buddy must buy two shots of any drink you choose for you and any girl you want the rest of the night.

“Double-Double”: You figure it out…

“Triple Double”: U DA MAN!

“Clear Path Foul:’’ You picked up the hottest girl in the club. She has told you how much she wants you. You are on your way back to your place. She pukes all over your car.

“Fast Break”: You’ve just arrived, you have not even valeted the car yet and your buddy is coming out of the nightclub, hot girl on his arm.

“Traveling”: You live in Dallas. She lives in Fort Worth. This is a change-of-possession foul – but only if your buddy doesn’t care where she lives.

“24-Second Violation’’: You meet a hot girl. You spend the first 25 seconds talking about your millions in the bank, new Maserati, your listing on the Forbes 400 and your Gulfstream while your three roommates look on. This is also known as a “30K Millionaire Violation.” It is a turnover – she turns herself over to the next guy in the bar who actually owns a Maserati or Gulfstream.

“Double Dribble”: You forget to tie your shoes. Just as you are about to hand your girl her drink, you trip and spill both drinks on her. This is a change-in-possession foul as your buddy because your buddy uses it against you. She agrees and goes home with him.

“Back-Court Violation”: Your posse is in the club. You have drink in hand when you realize your driver was denied entrance because he wore tennis shoes, thus violating the dress-to-impress code.

“Alley-Oop”: Your buddy generously hands off to you that last drunk girl in the bar at 2 am. You are hoping to convert to a “slam dunk.’’

“Moving Screen”: Your buddy is not getting near that girl. She is going home with you!diagram3

“Blocking Foul”: Just as the hottest girl in the club is handing you her phone number … this is gonna be good. … your buddy approaches and and is nice enough to report that he found your wedding ring on the floor.

“Offensive Foul”: You had Italian for dinner. You’re about to kiss your girl goodnight — on the cheek, because you’re a gentleman — when you burp just a little. Is that a piece of spaghetti that’s landed on her cheek? Another turnover. To anybody. As long as it’s not you.

“Technical Foul”: She told you she was 21 when you bought her a drink. This is an ejection. A one-game suspension. And a timeout. … maybe to be spent in a 4×6 with bars.

“Offensive Rebound”: It is not your fault your buddy can’t close.

“Tip Off”: You spy something on her neck. It is suspicious. It appears that the attractive woman you are looking at has an Adam’s Apple.’’

“Two-Minute Warning”: It’s last call. You struck out. Your designated driver has left and you have no cab fare. Time for more “traveling.’’ Because you’re walking home.

There’s the rules of the game. And unlike the NBA regular season, which must come to again, in the nightlife scene, every weekend brings a playoff round!

©2012 Brian Cuban


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12 WTF Skymall Christmas Gifts-2011

It that time  of the year again!  With Christmas around the corner, It is time for my new WTF Skymall Gift List 2011!

Anyone who has flown almost any commercial airlines more than a few times is intimately familiar with Skymall magazine. It is required browsing for any airline travel warrior.

It is a magazine off  hopeful Shark Tank idea, gadgets, oddities, collectible and future garage sale items that are supposed to make our lives easier, more enjoyable or simply give you an excuse to open up an EBay account. When do we reach the reach the upper limits of our 3o Thousand feet boredom and finally read Skymall cover to cover? Here are a few reasons:

When you are stuck on a flight with no Wi-Fi;

When you have read American Way Magazine cover to cover… three times;

When you don’t  understand Spanish so you can’t read NEXOS;

When someone else has  already  done the crossword puzzle;

When you  have mooched and read the Wall Street Journal, US Magazine and National Enquirer  from the passenger in the seat next to you;

When the baby next to you is screaming uncontrollably and you need a distraction with the only things left to read being the barf bag and the card that reminds you of what won’t save your life if your plane goes down.

When you need a distraction from your trouble breathing due to the 500 lb guy squeezing you into 3 square feet of your seat.

When all of the above has happens you finally pull Skymall out of the seat-back pocket.

The effect of Skymall magazine on the enjoyability of a flight is not to be taken lightly. Have my fellow frequent-flyers not also experienced that irritated knot in the stomach and let out an exasperated sigh when you excitedly pull out the Skymall mag and see that it is the same issue that you read on the last flight? How many times can we look at a Rosetta Stone ad and try to convince ourselves that it would be useful to learn Pashto.

I have on many a flight gone through every item in the magazine analyzing its cost-benefit to society and simply wondering who would be stupid enough to actually buy a Indoor Dog Restroom. Is there really an impulse buy at 30k feet?

So with X-mas coming up fast and needing to make a list and check it twice, what better place to start than Skymall and its 240 plus pages of very cool to very weird gadgets and gifts for the traveler who has everything and the gift recipient who will say thanks but will really be thinking WTF!

1. The “Cat Toilet Training System

Look at the face on this cat.  It screaming, “I’m Taking a sh*t! Shut the door!”  Does it also teach the cat how to flush?  The upside of this is that it will be good coffee table talk when your guest goes to take a dump and wonders if you have a rat problem.  God forbid poor kitty loses her balance and does a cat-o-nine-tails into the Toilet Kitty Hell.  As soon as PETA gets wind of this the “shits” really going ot hit the fan.

2. The “SIT FIT”  Ridiculous “Infomercial” type exercise gadgets are low hanging fruit for the WTF list.   The image is a well dressed lady in high heals sweating herself up at her desk while she’s closing a million dollar deal.  Or the guy putting some sweat stains on his Fruit Of The Looms. This is also an ab-toner?  I might as well cancel my gym membership, forget the marathon training and fool myself into thinking this thing works while I eat that pizza slice at my desk.  One word of advice.  While you are making those foot movements and sweating it up beneath your desk, keep your hands in plain view or people will think your  “working yourself up” a little higher on your body.

3.  The Underwater Cell Phone System(1,790.00) It advertises as follows:

With the Alpha UWCP, talk with someone 15,000 miles away while diving a tropical reef or in your pool! This complete and sophisticated communication diving system can do it.

I still can not figure this out. Is this in case you get drunk and go overboard on a cruise ship? What’s more, do you really need an underwater phone to make a call from your swimming pool? Spend 50 bucks on a waterproof case instead! Maybe this is a big seller in the treasure hunter profession. At almost $1800.00 we may not see this in many garage sales but I have no doubt one will turn up inside a shark one day.

toppik4. Toppik Hair Building Fibers Being follically challenged and having often thought of coughing up the big bucks for the Bosley Clinic, this item caught my attention. I frankly thought that this stuff went the way of the “As Seen On TV” Ronco Veg-o-matic and Ginsu knives. It advertises:

Many A-list celebrities use Toppik to enhance their image, on screen and off. Hollywood stars trust Toppik. It’s undetectable, even in close ups and stays on through wind, rain and perspiration.

Even more interesting to me than whether it works are these mysterious “A-List” celebs. I want to know what celebrities will admit to spray painting their heads. TMZ should get on this immediately. Conspicuously missing was a disclaimer that Toppic should not be used by people who are color-blind. I smell a lawsuit…

yankeestadium5-Old Yankee Stadium Seat. (799.00) A used seat from the old Yankee Stadium. Unless Babe Ruth or some other Yankee legend sat in it or autographed it, this is a WTF item. It is however is certainly more reasonable than a seat a the new Yankee Stadium. My advice is to pay the 799.00 for this seat, put it in front of your big screen and MLB package. You can then laugh at the suckers who coughed up tens of thousands of dollars to sit in something that they will be able to buy for about 800.00 in the 2040 Skymall Holiday edition. 

6.  “Brew Your Joe While You Go”  Where could you possibly be in such hurry to get to that you can’t make your coffee first or pass by one of the Gazillion Starbucks or even 7-11’s(which has damn good coffee)  that infest our nation.  If your going for cost per cup, stick with the swill from  your office coffee pot. Probably tastes no worse and  you don’t look an idiot carrying this thing around.  This is not even a  future garage sale.  Within months you will be watering your plants with it.

7-Remote Controlled Tarantula. Any adult that buys this for himself has repressed violent tendencies. If he is buying it for his kid, what message is this supposed to send? Terrorize your fellow children with big disgusting bugs?tarantula Nice. I am so weirded out by spiders that just picture of this gives me the willies. This faux spider would not last five minutes in my house. Survival reflex would take over and it would be squashed into 1000 bits of circuits and switches

7-Oil Extractor(69.95) They advertise this like it is the common thing to do to crawl under your own car and change your own oil. The ad states:

This is How Mercedes Factory trained techs change oil”

Well isn’t that why we don’t crawl under our own cars and let them do it ?oilextractor A Mercedes owner that changes his/her own oil?  That is a WTF in itself.

8-Wireless Toilet Seat.  “Some Men Have A Hard Time Remembering To Put The Toilet Seat Down” Now we need wireless assistance for this?  Is this what our collective manhood has devolved into?  Give this to your “significant guy”  for Christmas and you are guaranteed  a vacuum cleaner and an affair in return not necessarily in that order.  It takes 30 seconds to go up and down.  In “I gotta go” time, that’s an eternity.  My advice is to partner with the makers of the  Cat Toilet Training System.   Kitty needs some help.

9-Basho The Sumo Wrestler (95.00). “Basho crouches in his mawashi (Sumo belt) in these intricate sculpts with wide stances. This Toscano-exclusive heavyweight is cast in quality designer resin for display in home or garden.”

If you are looking for an easy way out of your marriage simply give Basho to your wife for Christmas or place him a center piece on the dinner table right after she has told you she feels like she needs to lose a few pounds… On the other hand, I only glanced at him for a second and immediately renewed my gym membership. At 95 bucks it beats the hell out of lipo.basho

10-Electronic Listening Device. (59.95) “Powerful enough to capture distant sounds from 300 feet away. Zoom in and see what you’re hearing. Sounds and images impossible for the human ears and eyes to pick up now seem as if you’re only a couple of feet away. This secret surveillance device is perfect for when you really need to know what’s going on.”

The perfect gift for the soon to be divorcing couple so they can spy on each other. If your spouse or significant other suddenly turns up with this gadget and tells you it is to pick up “bird sounds” you should be suspicious. Do you really want to be with someone who has those kind of voyeuristic tendencies? This would be a much bigger seller as a “his and hers” so you can spy on each other.listening

11-Head Spa Massager. I am not really sure what to say about this.  From the photo it appears that you can either massage your head, audition for alien guest spot on Star Trek, remove Spock’s brain, or prepare for the invasion of Troy.  A great combination of options at 49.95.

Last but not least.  Are you still wondering who would be stupid enough to buy the Indoor Dog Restroom?   Wonder no more.  It was me.  Yes I was suckered into the Skymall impulse world of future garage sale items.  Was my dog happy to do her business on her new AstroTurf?  The answer was yes but it was not the business I expected.doggierestroom

What they don’t tell you is that for this to work you have to have your dog piss in a cup and pour it on the turf so she gets the scent.   I dutifully  followed the instructions. I poured her “business” on the fake grass.  My dog  walked right over to it, looked up at me and took a dump on the AstroTurf.  I am still trying to fumigate my apartment.  WTF!!

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Airplane Armrest Wars

After 32 years of flying I had my first verbal confrontation with a fellow airplane passenger sitting next to me.  She accused me of being an “elbow assaulter” for  invading her seat space.  More specifically, my right elbow repeatedly made contact with her left shoulder

I was on my way back to DFW  from San Francisco after a terrible day in which I totally bombed a speaking engagement. It was the last flight out.  I admittedly was a little cranky.  The aircraft was a Boeing 737.  I was in window Seat 13A.   It’s a three seat row. All three were occupied.  If you have flown a 737 coach you know that it’s basically a flying bus with little leg or elbow room.  Add to the mix that I am 6’2  23o lbs and she was not a petite individual. That left about 1 inch max of shoulder room to maneuver around.  In that situation, it is extremely difficult to occasionally not make some type of body contact with the person sitting next to you unless you become a statute for the entire flight.  I was also attempting to use my laptop which was almost impossible because the guy in front of me reclined his seat into my groin.  To be clear, this was not a case of  my body spilling over into her seat.  She had simply taken control of the armrest to my right as she is entitled to do and had adjusted herself in a “sleeping position”.  She was not sitting upright in her seat.  It was  physically impossible for me to sit in a normal position and type or even adjust myself occasionally without my elbow occasionally touching the part of her shoulder that was on the armrest.  Sensing her annoyance, I made various maneuvers in my seat and tried to flatten myself against the bulkhead as much as humanly possible to give her as much room as possible while still being able to type.

After about the 3rd or 4th time I brushed up against her shoulder, she looked at me and firmly asked me to stay out of her seat. I calmly explained to her that I was as far up against the bulkhead as I could be. In lieu of sitting perfectly still the entire flight or in an awkward position there was nothing I could do.  Our bodies were inevitably going to make contact . That was not good enough for her.  She made it clear it was her seat, she had paid for it and I should cease my “elbow assault”.

The back and forth escalated to the point where I calmly but firmly told her that there was nothing I could do and she could either deal with it or call the flight attendant to be moved. I would have gladly moved but it was a full flight and there were only middle seats available. I was not going to give up my window seat to only find myself in a worse situation.   This was coach.  Space is tight.  Baby’s are going to cry.  There are going to be unwelcome smells.  People are going to recline their seat into your groin.  Shoulders are going to occasionally touch.   As I expected,  the flight attendants told her there was nothing they could do but move her to another available middle seat.  She was having none of that.  She had paid for her seat.  I was an unwelcome trespasser to be evicted by any legal or non-legal means.  It was that point the attendant began to feel my pain. I saw the slight eye roll.   A firmer tone took hold as she repeated told the passenger that  while I may be an “elbow assaulter”  it was not a capital offense.  The FBI and Homeland Security would not be called to the gate and I would not be given a parachute and ejected from the plane.  The passenger finally grudgingly got up, gave me a “f*ck you” glare and moved to another seat.

What is the proper etiquette here?  I am a big guy but not outside the norm of people who fly. I was not spilling into her physical seat space.  Ironically,  two seats up from me were two guys who REALLY had space issues.  They seemed to be getting along just fine. (see photo).  I frankly do not see anything I could do to appease her other than moving to a middle seat which I was not going to do or flatten myself against the bulkhead and sit perfectly still the entire flight.  To get some insight, I went to someone I know.  Flight attendant veteran  Heather Poole, who blogs about her flight experiences and allegedly has a book on the subject coming out.  In her blog “Middle Seat Etiquette”  she says:

  • Leave the armrest for the middle seat passenger. The window seat passenger has the window, while the aisle seat passenger has the aisle, but the middle seat passenger has nothing, nada, zilch, so please, for the love of god, give the person in the middle seat something, anything, an armrest, please!
  • Do not hit the middle seat passenger in the head with your newspaper, even when the middle seat passenger is asleep and you are fairly sure they will not feel it.
  • Do not use the middle seat passenger’s tray table. Even if the middle seat passenger is not using it.
  • Do not put your feet under the seat in front of the middle seat passenger, no matter how long your legs are, even if the middle seat passenger is short.
  • Do not place your luggage underneath the seat in front of the middle seat passenger. The middle seat passenger has luggage, too.
  • Do not bring aboard a pet, choose an aisle or window seat, and then expect to put the pet under the middle seat because it does not fit under your seat.
  • Do not raise the armrest between you and the middle seat passenger, no matter how well you are getting along.
  • Keep your hair away from the middle seat passenger, no matter how pretty or how manly it may be.
  • Remember, middle seat passengers are people too!

What about being tagged as a  window seat “elbow assaulter”  when there is no place to put the elbow but at your side?  Heather? Help!

Stay tuned for episode two of “Airplane Armrest Wars”


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